Gratitude Goes a Long Way in Expressing Yourself
Now, openly expressing your negative feelings doesn’t mean you should go around putting others down and it also doesn’t mean finger wagging or accusing. Instead, find a more constructive way to get things off your chest. You might find it’s best for you to write your feelings down, wait a day or so, review your email for tone, and send them off in an e-mail. If you have the creative ability, write a poem or a song about your feelings. Whatever you do, focus on the problem, not the person. After all, we all make mistakes!
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It has been a couple of months since I was last in touch, and I miss connecting with y'all.
I've found that we all want so many of the same things: to feel good about life, to feel healthy, to feel abundance in its many dimensions, to feel purpose in life, to love and be loved, and to feel a release from past traumas. You see, I've been down with one health issue after another for two months and just wan't experiencing these things. Turned out to be nothing life threatening nor incurable. But I wasn't so sure when I was in the midst of the struggles. Remember that I'm living a new life in Malaysia? I still love it, but I certainly wasn't familiar with the healthcare system here. I am now. Turns out, I found a great specialist and support team who could diagnose the problem and help repair it. I got the help I needed from them and from supportive friends and family. Could not have done it without them! So grateful. It was just a few months ago (before I got sick) that I was lying on a massage table here in Penang, and, as the young Cambodian masseuse worked on my back and shoulders, I had this overwhelming urge to be grateful for my body.
Yes, for my body. Now, this might seem a usual thing that you do, but it had never occurred to me to do this before. I had just been listening to a discussion about how without our health, we really can't do anything else like we'd like to do. I'd heard that before and had nodded (yawned?) in agreement. And, continued to take my (sacred) body for granted. But this time was different. Now, openly expressing your negative feelings doesn’t mean you should go around putting others down and it also doesn’t mean finger wagging or accusing. Instead, find a more constructive way to get things off your chest. You might find it’s best for you to write your feelings down, wait a day or so, review your email for tone, and send them off in an e-mail. If you have the creative ability, write a poem or a song about your feelings. Whatever you do, focus on the problem, not the person. After all, we all make mistakes!
Don’t Plant the Poison Tree Seed
When you conceal your true feelings, there’s an internal pressure that causes negative emotions like anger, resentment, fear, and hatred to swell up and take on more potential energy within you. The day always comes when those emotions explode outward because of the pressure. I’ve chosen to work a lot with emotional baggage, my own and those of my clients. I do it because I realized at a later time in my life that I had no clue on how to both honor my emotions, release what hurt, and speak without hurting others. It was part of the codependence that I grew up in and continued throughout my early family life. Every once in a while, when push comes to shove, I can still feel those old habits rise to the surface.
But I work on it every day. I can choose my thoughts and choose to change! And so do my clients as we figure out a new way to live. Now that I'm older and have been through a few Christmases, I understand why my mother-in-law would go to her bedroom and shed a few tears every Christmas gathering. I find myself doing the same thing and not even knowing why. Sometimes its because I miss someone, or remember something, or just feel confused and frustrated.
Beginnings Require Endings
I know that its Christmas time and feelings are everywhere. Some good, and some not so good. And the list is long of what you need to get done before the big day(s). I've been thinking a lot about the meaning of Christmas: the things I want to keep in my life, the things I want to let go of, and the person I want to be. I’m enjoying taking a class with Jeffrey Allen called “Transcendence.” Its all about practicing your connections with God Above and God Within, your intuition, your Higher Self, and all that goes with it.
What’s unique is that this is about practice. Not about knowledge or information or new insight. Its about practicing skills that help you grow and develop those neural pathways that will bring you greater connection. And I want that along with a greater sense of compassion, love, and peace for myself and for the world around me. Does Your Head Talk to You Too Much?
Maybe this sounds silly, but do you find that your head keeps talking to you and you can’t turn it off? I know how that feels cuz I was burdened with that for many years. Until I realized that… You can choose your thoughts. Yes. You can exercise control over the thoughts that keep flitting through your head. You can influence your own thoughts to be more self-compassionate on yourself, less hurtful to you and others, and simply less inflammatory. |
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