Now, openly expressing your negative feelings doesn’t mean you should go around putting others down and it also doesn’t mean finger wagging or accusing. Instead, find a more constructive way to get things off your chest. You might find it’s best for you to write your feelings down, wait a day or so, review your email for tone, and send them off in an e-mail. If you have the creative ability, write a poem or a song about your feelings. Whatever you do, focus on the problem, not the person. After all, we all make mistakes!
Don’t Plant the Poison Tree Seed
When you conceal your true feelings, there’s an internal pressure that causes negative emotions like anger, resentment, fear, and hatred to swell up and take on more potential energy within you. The day always comes when those emotions explode outward because of the pressure.
I’ve chosen to work a lot with emotional baggage, my own and those of my clients. I do it because I realized at a later time in my life that I had no clue on how to both honor my emotions, release what hurt, and speak without hurting others. It was part of the codependence that I grew up in and continued throughout my early family life. Every once in a while, when push comes to shove, I can still feel those old habits rise to the surface.
But I work on it every day. I can choose my thoughts and choose to change! And so do my clients as we figure out a new way to live.
Certified Body Code Practitioner, life coach and energy healer, former non-profit executive with years of experience in caring for and about people and their place in this world. Friend of refugees and immigrants, ally to the addiction recovery community--all with respect, love, and compassion for mutual healing.