In Module 4 of the Introductory Getting Unstuck and Moving Forward System of Change, we start seeing what is possible, what can lie ahead, what we want in our lives, and what is yet to be cleared out. This is where I help you focus on setting your dreams and intentions that serve your highest good.
As you remove the scales from your eyes and start seeing things for what they are, you release unhealthy beliefs and replace them with more powerful, more healthy understandings of yourself and life around you. Even choosing the right words and phrases will bring powerful manifestations of the life you want to live.
Here are intentions that have been revealed during my own energy clearing sessions or those of clients:
I will guide you through clearing the subconscious energies and beliefs that no longer serve you and intuitively coach you in designing your new intentions.
Start seeing the future for what it can be and what it can hold. For you. For those you love.
I’m seeing it!
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I understand that I’m not the only one who goes through this. It’s the: If I buy a coffeemaker (towels, hair dryer, pots and pans, whatever!), it means I’m putting down roots. It is a statement. A firm intent. A commitment to a place.
Well. I guess I am staying here in Penang. I bought towels and a juicer to prove it.
Penang, Malaysia and I started dating last October when I learned more about it at the International Living conference in Phoenix. Now, this was not love at first sight. In fact, I was enamored with someplace else—but I had made no commitments! Penang whispered to the intentions I had set in my heart. I could see myself living there.
I packed it up, sold it all, and took the plunge. It still wasn’t love, and it wasn’t even for a lifetime. But it was still good enough for me to take the chance. To see what the siren song was all about. Just to see.
When I arrived, Penang courted me with its scrumptious food, its smiling and gracious residents, and its joie de vivre. But was it enough to make me say, “Yes. This is my new home.”? What would be that transition point where my body and soul would make the commitment?
Much of it happened at the laundromat. Yes. The laundromat.
The first time I went to wash my clothes, a little Malaysian boy (3? 4?) and I shared funny smiles and giggles while the clothes washed. I missed my own grandchildren.
As his family finished the laundry and started to walk out, he let go of his mother’s hand and ran back to touch my forehead and shake my hand. Then, to gleefully run off again with his mom and dad. I teared up.
Penang had just welcomed me into their home.
The second time at the laundromat, I had to wait a while to dry my clothes as it was so busy. I sat down next to a gentleman. We exchanged smiles. He was reading but everyone else was on their cell phones.
A young man, maybe 16 or 17 years old, was left to finish folding his household’s laundry of bedding and curtains. The curtains were BIG and unwieldy to fold alone, so I volunteered to help. With a hesitation and an “As you please” from him, we tackled the curtains just like I remembered doing with sheets and blankets off the clothes line in North Dakota.
We laughed a little as we worked to get it right, and then smiled because we had finessed our system. When I sat back down, the gentleman next to me quietly said, “You have a good heart.” I smiled.
I looked again at the young man, and in him I saw the eyes of the young men who had called our home their home after they had fled their war-torn countries. Cambodia, Vietnam, Bosnia, Haiti, Somalia, Sudan. Again, I teared up.
Each set of eyes had carried a different look. Some were wary and frightened. Some were cautiously optimistic. Some were tired and jaded. Some were confident and open.
But each set of eyes came with a boy who just wanted to be loved and accepted by someone else who cared about them. Even if for a brief time of folding clothes. Or maybe for a lifetime.
So, Penang and I have made a loving commitment. At least for the next two years. Along with the blessing of the state through issuance of the MM2H visa, we celebrated our union by renting a long-term apartment, selecting new towels for the guest bathroom, and purchasing a new stainless-steel juicer for the kitchen.
Come visit Penang sometime. Your guest towels are waiting, and the juices will flow. In fact, I can see it all now.
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One of the important spiritual and emotional practices we use in our third phase of the Getting Unstuck and Moving Forward System of Change is the practice of forgiveness. It comes after we have admitted to ourselves that we need change, and we realize we need help from others including Spirit.
Forgiveness is foundational to releasing pent-up negative energies that keep us stuck in the muck and unable to rise above. Scientific studies show that practicing forgiveness keeps us healthier in body and soul. Just thinking about forgiveness can make a difference in our health. Conversely, (consciously or subconsciously) holding on to negative energies about past incidents or traumas can easily turn into physical ailments that lodge anywhere in the body. I’ve seen it in myself, and it regularly comes up with clients.
I know how difficult it is to forgive. There have been plenty of times I’ve had to forgive myself for messing up (again) on something I couldn’t seem to conquer. Apologies were justified. And, I have such strong codependency tendencies that I easily take the blame for things.
But there are the big things that happen to us with no fault of our own.
During a healing session, your subconscious may bring up a trapped emotion like anger or confusion or guilt that came from a certain time in your life. Sometimes it is a family issue but all too often someone says, “I’ve never told anyone this before, but I was raped when I was 14, and I’ve just stuffed it all these years.”
How does someone forgive this terrible thing?!
My friend, your subconscious knew you needed healing from this event. It knows everything that has ever happened in your life. It identified this deeply unhappy pain as something that needed to be released from your body to stop it from festering and becoming a sickness. You can know that the sting of that traumatic memory is released. Yes, the memory remains as an event, but it no longer has to have control over you, your emotions, and your soul.
Forgiveness has so many dimensions. It is something you can choose to do for yourself. A conscious decision. But it needs to be addressed from the subconscious level, too, as we do in releasing those unhappy memories and feelings through energy clearing.
Forgiveness is also spiritual as you clean away the negative energies that hold you back, and you can replace that space inside you with higher vibrating energies like forgiveness, peace, and compassion (for yourself and others).
Sure, forgiveness is not condoning a wrong nor does it ignore the consequences of bad deeds. But it can release the negative energy around it and simply do what needs to be done without vengeance, anger, or spite.
You do forgiveness for you. You do it for your children and your family. You release the negative energies that hold you back and that get transferred to your children down through the generations.
You will feel different. You will notice the release. Yes, there may be other feelings that will call out to be released, too, as you’ve built up a wall around your heart for protection. Once you are free from that pain, you will be able to grow the good you want to come into and go out from your life. You will blossom and the Universe will smile.
I invite you to start your healing journey with my unique and personalized, Getting Unstuck and Moving Forward System of Change. Let’s clear the muck and clear the negative energies that hold you back from moving forward into your new life, loves, and passions.
When I was in college, we learned about something called ethnocentrism: the evaluation of other cultures according to preconceptions originating in the standards and customs of one’s own culture.
Today, I am a guest in another culture. I don’t yet know the rituals, or niceties, or even what the road signs mean. I don’t know what I might be doing wrong and for which I am being forgiven simply because my hosts are gracious and understanding that there is a foreigner amongst them.
I do know that a smile is always welcome and being respectful goes a long way in a friendly exchange. I like being called, “Miss” by the young woman in the local KFC or coffee shop. I like the conversations I have with the housekeeper who misses her home and the young Uber driver who misses his son.
But I do need to “practice the pause” at times when my mind jumps to conclusions about something I really know nothing about. It is easy to make judgments based on my own experiences or my own perceptions of things. Or thoughts that just pop out of nowhere in my head that are not based on the reality that is in front of me.
This is what makes traveling so, so, so good.
It reminds me that I am not the center of the universe and that are lots of ways to do things. Being kind and forgiving just goes with the (new) territory.
1. I’m going to be OK. Really.
2. People are friendly and engaging, especially if you are friendly and engaging, too.
3. Change is just change. It is disconcerting and disorienting. But you get through it.
4. Unfamiliar places quickly become familiar. Whew.
5. Want a friend? Be a friend. Reach out, listen, appreciate, laugh, and say yes.
6. Did I mention laugh? Life is so much better if you laugh.
For me, it came at those times of loss. When my mom died and when my marriage ended. When I lost an important job-- or my sense of identity that went with that job. I was hurt, confused, and scared.
I felt very alone during those times in my life; like everyone in the world still had their moms or marriages or favorite jobs—except me.
To deal with the pain, I isolated myself even more and wouldn’t reach out to anyone. But that empty, lonely, gnawing feeling inside wouldn’t go away. Was it depression? Anxiety? I don’t know. What I did know was that I felt so very ALONE.
Three things happened to give me relief from that sense of aloneness, and now I have incorporated them into my “Getting Unstuck and Moving Forward” system of change so you can experience that new life, too.
First of all, I was able to clear the subconscious energy imbalances inside me. Through using the energy clearing modality of Body Code/Emotion Code, I identified trapped emotions, unhealthy beliefs, and blocked energies and released them from my system. As another healer once told me, “It’s like going to 10 counseling sessions.” And, for me, it had the same effect but in a much shorter amount of time.
Next, I found a compatible friend with whom to do the gratitude journal. We share no judgments, no comments, and no opinions on each other’s gratitudes. Just a promise to read, appreciate, and keep confidential. I am not alone when I know someone is listening on the other end of my email.
My final assurance of not being alone came from recognizing Spirit as part of my past, present, and future. This is my loving Higher Power (or any other name) that has my back, cares deeply about my life, and guides me all along the way.
This means that we never have to be alone to deal with ourselves, our lives, or our dreams. Sometimes that someone has skin on like a friend or a professional. And all the time, Spirit is there to surround you with loving support.
When you are ready for clearing your own blocks to living your life, loves, and passions—I promise to be there with you. You will not feel alone.
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Recently, Wanda, Wayne, Liz, and I met together for a first get-acquainted dinner at a nearby Indian restaurant. We each have different life stories and differing reasons for being in Penang, Malaysia.
Turns out that Wayne spent part of his growing-up years with relatives here in Penang. Liz had been on her way to India when she found herself going to Malaysia instead. Wanda is just traveling and discovering. And, I’m…well, I’m just happy to be here.
We shared several vegetarian dishes and rice and topped it all off with various desserts. We laughed and talked until the meal came. And, then, silence, as we savored the delicious fare in front of us.
Each meal is truly a gift here. Served with a flourish and care. Which prompted the comment, “Ah, the quiet of the eat.” Lentil and chickpea, okra (called “ladyfingers” here), cauliflower and potato, spinach, paneer, roti, mango, and more. And rice, of course.
The “quiet of the eat” is almost a prayer of gratitude for the deliciousness in front of us and the joy of invigorating company. Ah, life is good and the belly is full.
P.S. This gastronomic delight only cost each of us $9.52 for several courses and dessert. Oh, my, oh my.
Take a moment to think about your day. Did some good things happen? Funny things? Silly things? Touching things? Irritating things? Did anything or anyone make you stop and say, “Wow!” “Thank you.” “That was amazing.” “How beautiful!” Did anyone give you a hand, a smile, or an encouraging word?
That’s the feeling of gratitude. Its when your heart swells up with a little flurry of feeling that vibrates throughout your whole body. And you smile and are grateful.
I’ve incorporated gratitude as one of the foundational parts of my “Getting Unstuck and Moving Forward” system for change. It is a habit of the mind and the heart together that trains us to receive love, joy, and peace.
In the second stage of the six stages of change, we practice observing the events in our lives including the events that don’t always feel so good. We write them down and email them to a friend who has agreed to be our gratitude partner during this journey. We don’t censor, comment, or contain our thoughts as we write. We just write. Everyday.
What do we write about? Maybe it is about the weather—and then you realize you have a roof to keep the sun and rain out. Or maybe it is about an irritating family member—and then you smile and remember how cute he was at 2 or 4. You notice that your coworker helped you on a report—and she didn’t need to do it, but she did.
How about simple delights? Like the smile from your granddaughter or the snuggle with your cat. Or the sunshine you feel on your face. Or the comfortable bed you have or the wave from your neighbor.
Gratitude sets the stage for releasing negativity and instilling higher-vibrating energies that help the good go out from you and the good come back to you.
By practicing your gratitude on a daily basis, you will watch yourself and the world around you change. Almost miraculously. You will find yourself smiling more, noticing the little things, appreciating the people around you, and enjoying the moment. And happiness studies show that this habit of gratitude has lasting neural effects for good.
Let’s get started! (And thank you to Melody Beattie for this idea in her book, “Make Miracles in Forty Days.” I highly recommend the book.)
I know what it takes to take that first step of acknowledging that you need some change in your life. That’s why I’m offering you a FREE consultation to see if this is the right step for you. Just schedule a totally free, no obligation consultation with me, and let’s do a sample session and learn more about each other.
I’m dedicating my life to helping men and women just like you get out of the muck and move ahead into the life they want to live. This is a unique program that combines transformational coaching with clearing of energy blockages that keep you stuck. Without clearing those subconscious traps, you tend to repeat and repeat old patterns that get you nowhere.
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I’m discovering how much joy I get in having tasks to do or a plan for the day when I get up in the morning. Those tasks and that purpose keep me sane and thriving during this change in my life.
Coming to a new place is discombobulating. Disorienting. Daunting. I remember teaching community members to try writing a story using their non-dominant hand. Can you feel it?... The words are you and the story is you, but the effort to write is disconcerting. You look down at the paper and the writing is childish and scribbly—but you know you can write even if it doesn’t show up on your paper. That’s what it feels like to live in a new culture. You are still you, but things just don’t come as easily as when you were back home.
That’s why I’m so grateful for daily tasks, daily rituals, and healthier soul habits as I adjust to this new calling.
Certified Body Code Practitioner, life coach and energy healer, former non-profit executive with years of experience in caring for and about people and their place in this world. Friend of refugees and immigrants, ally to the addiction recovery community--all with respect, love, and compassion for mutual healing.