Unworthy: Not good enough; beneath the dignity of; not commendable or credible; undeserving; not valuable or suitable; unbecoming.
I’ve struggled with writing this article because feeling unworthy is so deeply embedded in many of my clients and has been a strong part of my own past trapped emotions.
I grew up in a small town in North Dakota, USA, and my father didn’t want to take communion at our local Lutheran church because he said he felt “unworthy.” I knew my father to be a good man, a respected man, and a loving father. What made him think he was so unworthy that he couldn’t receive the sacrament of forgiveness and restoration?
Now I understand that the sense of not being good enough is the flip side of seeking perfection. Of thinking you must perform at a certain level, be a certain kind of person (often unattainable!), look a certain way, or achieve unfathomable things. Perfection.
“The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brene’ Brown, Ph. D. is a great read, and a group of us studied it together. That is when I came to grips with the simple statement that “I am enough.”
“Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.” That’s the tagline to the book. It means that we need to let go of the hidden beliefs that we’ve acquired from our families, from our schools, from our cultures and faiths, that say we aren’t good enough. That we must BE MORE.
I found that by releasing my sense of being unworthy, I can allow my life to develop the courage, compassion, and connections that undergird my soul today. I can be more at peace knowing that I can do good work for its own sake and its own satisfaction. I do not need perfection nor do I need to please anyone else.
It has taken me courage to share my story of weakness when I’d rather say I’m strong. Or the times I have known someone’s compassion when I’ve fumbled the ball at work or as a friend. Or, how I’m learning to depend on compassion from my family and new friends here in Malaysia as we get used to each other’s quirks and personalities.
One speaker encourages her listeners to write “I Am Enough” in lipstick on their bathroom mirrors. Folks have written back that just by seeing that every morning and every evening, their lives have calmed, and their confidence has grown.
If you struggle with never feeling good enough or with other trapped feelings and beliefs that hold you back, I am here for you. You don’t have to go this path alone. Through my special Compassionate Energy Clearing, I can help you release the blocks that hold you back from the life you want to lead. Contact me today for a free first consult to see if this is right for you. Learn more at DynamicLifeHealing.com.
Certified Body Code Practitioner, life coach and energy healer, former non-profit executive with years of experience in caring for and about people and their place in this world. Friend of refugees and immigrants, ally to the addiction recovery community--all with respect, love, and compassion for mutual healing.