What Do You Tell Yourself that Keeps You Stuck?
"I failed at this before." OK. I'll give you some space on this one because I know first-hand that failure can hurt. But I won't let you end there. Because "failure" is just another way of life getting your attention that you have some learning and growing to do. And, that things are not yet quite ready for you to move ahead--you have some baggage to attend to. Have you ever tried to talk to your boss and felt like you got nowhere? Or have you wanted to move to a new place and didn't have the courage to do so? By shifting your focus off of what seems like failure and instead re-framing past situations as, "What really happened? What did I learn? What could I do better?" you start to see things in a new light.
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What Do You Tell Yourself that Keeps You Stuck?
“It’s too complicated.” By now you know that I focus on getting unstuck and moving forward in life--because I've needed it so much in my own life. And I've seen it in the lives of my friends, family, and clients. I understand what it means get stuck in grief after the loss of a love relationship whether through death, divorce, or separation. I know what it feels like to be in a job that doesn’t fit, but you still need to pay the bills. Or, how it feels to be frozen with fear at taking a step that might snowball in ways you can’t control or know what will happen. Aargh! What Will They Write on Your Tombstone?
A good friend and mentor died this past week. He was a very young 69-year-old and died in his sleep. He lived in Minnesota and had taught for many years at a local college. He and his wife and family were pillars of the community and often opened their home to others for gatherings and good conversation. Terror: Intense, sharp, overmastering fear; extreme fright; alarm.
A client said I could share this story about “terror” that was stuck in him and has been holding him back from doing what he really wants to do—be a better communicator. Insecurity: A lack of confidence; self-conscious; shy. Feeling unsafe from danger or ridicule.
This simple yet damaging feeling can get trapped when we feel disconnected, misunderstood, socially awkward, or don’t know what or whom to trust for our safety. Worthless: Of no importance or value; without excellence of character, quality, or esteem; serving no purpose.
Isn’t that definition just hard to read? Yet, this is one of the most common trapped emotions that comes up for my clients and for me. There isn’t a one of us who wakes up and says, “Oh, I think I’m going to feel totally worthless today. Let’s see how I can live that out.” We hide it so well, but it has a way of catching up with us. Unworthy: Not good enough; beneath the dignity of; not commendable or credible; undeserving; not valuable or suitable; unbecoming.
This is a series of articles on the top trapped emotions that come up for my clients time and time again. Maybe one of these is part of you, too.
Trees and birds, I said, just give me more trees and birds. Wherever I would go, I told God Above, whether USA or internationally, it had to give me more trees and birds.
Did you notice a small change I made to the Dynamic Life Healing logo? Its tagline now says, Compassionate Energy Clearing.
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AuthorCertified Body Code Practitioner, life coach and energy healer, former non-profit executive with years of experience in caring for and about people and their place in this world. Friend of refugees and immigrants, ally to the addiction recovery community--all with respect, love, and compassion for mutual healing. Archives
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